Xander Stalenhoef – Body-oriented coach
More feeling and
less thinking
Do you often find yourself in your head, yet long to be conscious again with what your body is trying to tell you? Through breathwork, massage, and coaching, I'll guide you towards better health, more relaxation and clarity, less stress, tension and pain.
In which ways do I guide you?
Connected Breathwork
Through connected breathing, your nervous system awakens. Stored tension and emotions are released, creating deep relaxation, space, and clarity — in both body and mind.
Integral Holistic Massage
Through mindful touch, you reconnect with the deeper layers of your being. Via the body, our physical portal, we discover emotional, mental and spiritual areas. Together, we explore that which asks your attention, with care and attunement
Intuitive Coaching
If breathwork or massage feels too intense or unknown for now, we explore your questions through conversation. Using body-oriented tools from NLP, systemic work, and mindful movement, you’ll gain insight into your blocks, strengths, and possible next steps.
Why body-oriented coaching?
When you turn inward and truly feel, your world becomes so much richer.
Like every human being, you carry tensions and old wounds within your body. Perhaps you’ve tried to 'get rid of them; or understand them with your mind. By reading, talking and analysing — yet lasting change never quite came.
Until something happens that triggers you again — a confrontation, a moment of stress. Your body reacts automatically: fight, flight, or freeze. You feel it in the way you breath, in tight shoulders, a lump in your throat, or a knot in your stomach. And how grounded do you still feel in that moment?
You might feel powerless, disconnected from yourself or others. But what if you could stay present — even in the eye of the storm — grounded, breathing, and fully here, in this moment?
> Xander Stalenhoef
'We are already whole — we simply help each other remember'
My own journey began around the year 2000 with one simple question: am I even able to feel? Until then, I lived mostly in my head. Through yoga, meditation, Ecstatic Dance, bodywork, and plant medicine, I slowly found my way back into my body and heart. This path showed me that we don’t need to fix ourselves — we already are whole.
My mission is to remind myself and you of this. And from there , to create a safe, nurturing space where you can explore your inner world. I walk beside you — with your body, question and goal as the compass — guiding you toward your own inner wisdom.
How the journey unfolds
Getting to know each other
Before the first session, in a (video) call, we explore your question, theme or physical pain, its possible roots, and your goals. This first step lays a clear and safe foundation for our work together.
Going deeper
In a session of Breathwork, Massage, or Coaching, I gently guide you inward — with presence and attunement. You learn to feel, to make conscious choices, and to recognise your boundaries. The key is that you feel safe, supported, and seen.
Integration
After the active part of the session, it's time to integrate. This allows your experiences and insights to settle and gently weave into your everyday life.
What others experience
“A safe, attuned, and non-judgmental space”
Every session is unique, yet my clients often describe a sense of safety, attunement, and gentleness. Here are a few of their experiences.
`Thank you for your gentle, loving presence and for creating such a safe space. Through connected breathing, I was able to drop into my body and allow what needed to be felt. I now feel more calm and spacious within myself — a deeply valuable experience I won’t soon forget.´
Natascha
´The introductory session was already exactly what I needed. Breathwork was new to me, but Xander guided me in a clear, open, and caring way. He attuned beautifully and sensed exactly what was needed. Highly recommended!´
Judith
´Xander’s breathwork guidance is loving and deeply attuned. It provides the safe foundation I need to truly go deep. During the massage, I could feel how intuitively he found the blockages, allowing energy to flow freely again. What I appreciate most is that he isn’t afraid to mirror what’s there — always with gentleness and without judgment. The name of his practice fits perfectly´
Desirée
Ready to take the first step?
Listening to your intuition, stepping into the unknown, spreading your wings — it can feel scary, I know that feeling well. That’s why I warmly invite you to a free introductory session. Together we’ll explore what you need, and whether my way of working feels right for you.
You are welcome — exactly as you are.
Everything you share is held in complete confidence.
